your opponent will generally, even against his will, be forced to observe the rules of courtesy.
Regard him as a brother for whom Christ died, and to whom you are sent with the message of
reconciliation. You can generally repress any rudeness on his part, without offending him, by
showing courtesy to him and making it clear, by your manner, that you expect the same conduct from
him. Never let an argument degenerate into a quarrel.
4. Remember that your opponent may be endeavouring to make you angry. If he can succeed in even
leading those present to imagine that you are so, he will in their opinion have gained the victory.
For example: as Byron states, a Turk's very beard is supposed to curl with wrath. ("Then curled
his very beard with ire.") To prevent one's anger from being thus evidenced, an Oriental will
frequently stroke his moustaches. If a Christian should do this, even thoughtlessly, in argument,
his opponent has been known to pause, look round on the audience to call their attention to it, and
then begin most profusely to apologize, with the appearance of fear, for having quite
unintentionally made him angry! He has gained the day; he has made his opponent angry, or pretends
to think he has, and perhaps convinces the rest that it is so! Anger of course shows consciousness
5. Endeavour to make your opponent feel the terribly deep importance of the matters he is
inclined to discuss so lightly. Show him that you regard them as matters